No matter whom you love.., she can be your college pal. She can be your colleague. she can be the girl next door.. she can be the girl you use travel regularly with. Your love story with a girl never happily and assuringly ends up in she, becoming your life partner. You do have to face the most annoying, 'analysis' phase before you step into marriage.
Love varies with gender. For nerds and geeks, Love can be defined as the filter to drain out their excess hormonal secretions. There are other hoard of guys, who do have big plans in their life. Their dreams will always fly high with IIM, IIT books. Ofcourse, they just don't stop with dreaming. Their dawns start up with their dream, followed by the day filled with action to achieve those difficult dreams.. Their dusks ends up with planning for the next day..These species of guys, never value Love, or never yearn for love. But even these guys, need love for the same reason as nerds and geeks. Ofcourse, this shouldn't be called 'Love'. But the so called, passionate, emotional, blind, long lasting love, is been missing in this society for a long time and the etymology for the word is been altered.
There is third category of guys. They're so called 'normal' guys who stick up to their survival, and regularly gets grinded between their job and life. For many 'normal' guys like me, the day never starts with long term dreams, unlike overachievers. It starts off with the frustration induced fear of continuing the previous day's hectic task. With no time to even mixup hot and cold water proportionately for bath, no time to brush up the news paper, with no time to fill the tummy with mom's dosa, no time to reply to friend's message.
These guys yearn for time to feel the love. They badly need a girl to share their feelings, out cry , frustration. For these normal guys, Love means an eternal gateway to escape from the gory hands of hectic life. They value a relationship. They value the time they spend with their girl-friend or 'to-be-girlfriend'.
So, whatever the above said type of guy you're, you cant escape from the analysis phase with a girl. In biblical context, the traits obtained from the first girl on earth, eve, or as per science, the XX chromosome leave girls with a natural tendency to be more intuitive than guys, and they always have the unbridled urge to analyse a guy. You will be subjected to a complete psycho analysis before you get commited to them. A lot of test cases will be prepared with the sole intention of finding fault with you, and the relationship moves on to the next stage, only when you get through all those tests. (This wont happen always with all the girls. Remember.. There are exceptions in everything. I'm not generalising.. :) )
These tests goes well with the former 2 categories of guys. And the third category, are the ones, who get the fatal blow, and frustration when they undergo this analysis phase. There is a justification for their irritation too. They feel, whats the necessity of them being tested, when they just dont care about the real intention of a girl.
The obvious, and the most heard reasons, one can expect from a girl for this allegation is that girls needs to be secure. They're most vulnerable. They always look for security..assurance blah blah.. The third category guys feel that, girls always want evrything to be everlasting. They need their life to be secure. Most of the 3rd category guys who are on the verge of realizing the true philosophy of life, find this mentality of girls irritating. Alas! Either 2 things happen. The guy hate the girl, or the girl get away from the guy. Just as how a DHCP assigns a dynamic IP address for every new connection , the relationships sprout out every monday and ends Every weekend.(I'm not saying this is commonly happening. I'm just telling this is also happening, and sooner it may happen commonly too, given the present scenario)
There do exist girls, very much like the 3rd category guys. Without developing test cases.. without analysing them. They don't have a slight trace of ego. One is lucky to find such girl. :)
This is the society where the hard hitting truths are always never given a hearty welcome.! :( We live with the truth, but never accept it. We prefer the truth to be given a euphemistic term!
So, aren't the girls subjected to analysis phase? Yes. They're tested and They're filtered by the guys too. But guys select a girl based on different constraint. But only the first and second category guys will do this.
The Pure hearts, always lies with the 3rd category guys. :)
It's because of these good hearts, Love still haven't lost it's freshness, and girls get a good Soul mate, escaping from the traps laid out by 1st category guys.
Will continue on it soon.
P.S.: The distance between my thoughts and my writing is very narrow, and I straightaway transmute my thoughts through key board. After all Blog gives me the bliss of expressing my thoughts. :)



